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placecards AGAIN!!
Question:
>I have never been to a wedding as part of a couple and had my own >placecard. How on earth can you know the names of their guests are going >to be, especially if he or she is not dating anyone exclusively? I am >interested to know how you are doing this – wouldn’t it be darned >embarrassing for Cousin Mark to show up with Ann when the placecard had >the guest’s name as Jane? How are you impressing upon your guests the >importance of keeping you informed of guest changes – even if the change >occurs hours before the wedding?
On several occasions, I have written my name and the name of my guest on the response card, only to show up at the reception to find "Ms. White and guest" written on the placecard. I think that is rude, especially since both of these couples knew my long-term boyfriend, and I made a point to write it on my response. I think you should make some effort to find out the guest’s name; it certainly makes the guests feel more welcome. On a separate occasion, I have even had a date comment that he was impressed that he had his own placecard. Just some suggestions. Kim
Response:
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->I have never been to a wedding as part of a couple and had my own >placecard. How on earth can you know the names of their guests are > going >to be, especially if he or she is not dating anyone exclusively? I am >interested to know how you are doing this – wouldn’t it be darned >embarrassing for Cousin Mark to show up with Ann when the placecard had >the guest’s name as Jane? How are you impressing upon your guests the >importance of keeping you informed of guest changes – even if the change >occurs hours before the wedding? > On several occasions, I have written my name and the name of my guest on > the response card, only to show up at the reception to find "Ms. White and > guest" written on the placecard. I think that is rude, especially since > both of these couples knew my long-term boyfriend, and I made a point to > write it on my response. I think you should make some effort to find out > the guest’s name; it certainly makes the guests feel more welcome. On a > separate occasion, I have even had a date comment that he was impressed > that he had his own placecard. Just some suggestions. > Kim
I too would be impressed to find my name on a placecard if I were only a guest’s guest. That doesn’t change the fact that if you are not traveling with a "long term boyfriend" situation, it still is limiting your options as a guest on who you can bring with you if the bride expects to make out ALL of the placecards by name. If you can find out the name of the guest’s guest and it’s a secure situation, then it’s a great thing to do. But there are many weddings where everyone single is invited "with guest". I believe that there may be situations in that wedding where all placecards by name wouldn’t be possible being courteous to the guests. Paul
Response:
Actually Paul, I am not sending any invitations to "and guest" – I really don’t want anyone’s temporary date who I’ve never met before at my wedding… Friends and relatives who are dating someone seriously will have an invitation extended to their date… Those who are usually accompanied by someone for driving or other such reasons will be asked for the nameof the companio well in advance (assuming I don’t already know). In the case of extenuating circumstances such as an elderly relative needing a ride, I (or my family) will be aware of this circumstance and will attend to the need – either by extending an invitation to this "last minute" guest or by arranging transportation, etc. I just don’t want 30 of 150 guests to be strangers… Our wedding is something very personal and meaningful to us… Everyone we invite should either be our loved ones or a loved one of theirs… I personally am not using placecards, but that doesn’t make putting Guest on one any less tacky! Paul, if you would like to continue this discussion I suggest we do it in mail.
: Julie- : I don’t imagine that you sent any invitations to "and guest" in that : case, did you? Don’t they all then deserve their OWN invitation? : And do you then require that YOUR guests determine who THEIR guests : will be by a specified date so that you may write the correct name on : their card? What if they change their guest close to the wedding? : Wouldn’t it be awkward for them to show up and not have a card, or be : expected to refer to a card with another name on it. Or would you expect : YOUR guest to call you with their change in THEIR guest up until the : wedding day. : You have invited a guest and invited them to choose THEIR guest. If : this new person were primarily YOUR guest then you would send them their : own invitation. Since you haven’t, they are primarily your GUEST’S : guest. Aren’t you limiting the options of YOUR guest by specifying their : GUEST in advance? : Just the logical extensions of your response, not a flame. :-) : Paul
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